Family Counseling Orlando has always been one of my biggest passions. I love working with the whole system. Family counseling moves fast. Strategic and structural methods of counseling where I am highly involved as a member or “player” in the family. I am not the therapist that will sit back and listen for an hour only to throw out a few suggestions. I am constantly looking for patterns and areas of communication broken down and not working. Once I find the loops and negative systems, I jump right in and start the work.
Once the families pattern is identified, the process of restructuring the family system begins. I may want to work with just a few for one topic or area, the next visit may be individually or just with the parents. I do not play the blame game and support pointing fingers at other family members. Family therapy looks at a broken system that has been in playing out among the family. It no longer works. It needs a fresh new approach. The slightest shift in the way just a few family members react, respond and communicates with each other, changes the entire system. It brings forth balance, harmony, joy and peace.
Those family members most resistant may be struggling with tremendous amounts of anxiety, depression, feelings of isolation, fear and anger. It is vital that all family members be heard. Seek to understand the reason a family member is shut down. At what point did the family member close up? How can change start to occur?
Family counseling and therapy is very unique. Most often times very small shifts and changes in behavior result quickly in positive results. Don’t worry if only one member is seeking counseling for the entire family. Change can happen even with just one! It is a gift to give your family the opportunity to grow and provide a safe and nurturing environment. Family therapy is effective. This is due to the dynamics of the family members and the ability to work with more than just one member. The more members involved the faster the change.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Narrative therapy along with role playing are largely incorporated into the sessions. Gaining the awareness of how the learned conditions or the narrative (story) we place on incidents that happen is important. It’s when we see that the stories are personal and unique to each family member that we stop telling one another they should or should not feel a certain way. We stop seeing things as only black and white. There is room for individuality and expression of self.
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