Marriage Therapy and Help. We all could use a little help can’t we? Are we to full of pride and fear that asking for help feels horrible? Why do we change the way we feel about our partner after the dust has settled and the roaring passion has died down to a small fire?
The love is new, and when new, both have the ability to feel wonderful feelings of happiness no matter what is going on around them. You could be stuck in traffic or having your teeth worked on. You both are in the throes of love that is passionate. It is an intense state of desire, attraction and longing. Over time this love will turn into companionate love. This is experienced as a less intensified and more impassioned blend of very deep affection and a deep connection.
Humans are inclined to take for granted positive experiences they have. We buy a very nice car, find a wonderful partner, get a nice house. How awesome for a while this feels. But then our expectations shift, they begin to multiply and expand. As this happens we start to take each other for granted. We get tired and bored and want more, new and better. We start to ask ourselves, “where is the love”, the passion and desire?
The bottom line is that it takes time and commitment to keep a marriage fresh and alive. If you do not like aspects of yourself then your going to see that lack in your partner and point out their flaws. Take the journey of individual counseling and/or relationship counseling. Understand better who you are instead of trying to please your partner. It is not your job to make your partner happy. It is your job to stay in your lane and be loving and kind. Read more about my approach and contact me today.