In order to start we must establish a base line by defining what is a healthy family. A family is the place in which you place your roots. The place that holds the most memories. It’s the foundation and the building block that shaped your personality and your character. It’s where you learn to laugh, or cry, be loved and feel you can be yourself without judgement.
You learn how to relate to others and how to treat others. Our parents model these behaviors early on. Depending on how well of a job they did has a lot to do with the course your life will take. Family is a place where you learn the importance of sharing, also the skill of relating to others. Also the correct way to treat each member. Your family is the place you learn how to interpret all of your surroundings. You learn how to know the difference between what’s right and what’s wrong.
However in a dysfunctional family often the lines are blurred. The boundaries become very unclear. Many times moral dilemmas can and will tend to challenge you. If you however come from a very healthy and adjusted family then your seldom unclear and confused about what the right from wrong thing is to do.
Take a family appraisal. As you take a look back, ask yourself how well you think your family did in regards to preparing you to incorporate these 8 above listed items? Are you upset and finding yourself becoming bitter because you feel shorted by your family? Remember that no family is perfect and that at the end of the day we are all humans doing human things. I am sure you can find one of the 8 from your family.
Seek mental health counseling, marriage or family therapy to help integrate some of the above listed characteristics into your daily life. Call us today at 407-967-1327.