I sure wish I could answer this question and deliver a simple message in a neat box with a ribbon tied. But the truth is that everybody’s coming from their own perspective. We all see the world in a different shade of color, slightly different angle, etc. So many families spend a lifetime trying to impose their truth onto each other and try to get each others to conform to their way of thinking.
A common mistake I see in family therapy is that the parents want the children to respond and do as they say and to follow their path that they have set out for their child. Of course this is mainly done on a subconscious level. Even though the parent or parents are unaware of the effects it robs the child of his or her individualism, uniqueness and ability to provide a life independent with self regulation in this world.
Some traits of what the ideal family looks like may be the following:
There are several more traits of what the ideal family looks like. These are just a few to help you to understand some of the major areas that need to be focused on when trying to improve the health of the family.
The following is a list of some common traits we see in families that can lead to unhealthy interaction and overtime can have negative effects on the children.
If you feel you are struggling with setting up a healthy foundation in your home then attending therapy can be greatly beneficial. In therapy you can work with your counselor as the whole unit as well as individually. It’s important to do the individual work of clearing up past wounds and areas where before you were unaware of. These may be your own wounds from childhood, your ability to avoid conflict, traits of perfectionism, etc.
Call us today at High Expectations Counseling 407-967-1327. We have highly trained and skilled therapists that can help you and your family to realign and get set straight on the correct path. You and your family deserve to have wonderful and stress free interactions and time together.