Follow these 10 simple guidelines and you are on the way to ruining your child’s sense of security and stability. You will send your child on a whirlwind of confusion, turmoil and pain. The effects of divorce on children leave deep scars that can and will be internalized. One of you must decide to take the upper road. Find a peaceful, more pleasant way to split without involving the health and welfare of your child.

Therapy is important for children with parents divorcing. Parents are often consumed with the feelings of their own. They overlook the child’s emotional state. They child is left confused and feels guilt, sorrow, pain, and abandonment. The child does not know the parent they are to “choose,” to be loyal to. Seeking counseling comes in the form of family therapy, individual therapy and child counseling. All are useful and the system needs to stay open and fluid. This allows the therapist to work with the members at various times according to obtaining the most support for the child.

Family members that have the ability to discuss their feelings related to issues arising from divorce are able to process emotions easier and adjust much better to change. Give your child and yourself the support you need and deserve.