Ending a relationship is messy. You feel shaken up and sad. Your relationship with the other person has come to an end. No matter if your married, engaged or committed it can be a hard transition for many. We start to go for the jugular and blame the other for not being committed enough. For not doing enough and seeing us. On and on we play this role out. You feel as if you have wasted all of this time and that you are a failure. There is something wrong with you for another not wanting to stay in the relationship. Even if you are the one that initiated the break up it still leaves you feeling the sense of lack. You are anxious, depressed and feel broken.
Why don’t we look at it as a lesson and pull from it what did go well? What areas need improvement in yourself and how to sharpen the knowing of self. Take your focus off of the other person and stop being a victim. You will see that there are tons of lessons that are valuable for your self growth and awareness.
If you find yourself reeling from the break up maybe using these steps can help you move through it. You will be better equipped once you know why you act the way you do.
For many finding peace after ending a relationship is very hard. Following the steps listed above is a great way to start the work and the journey back to self. You alone are the best gift to yourself. Self awareness and self love is the answer. Seek individual counseling today to start this journey. Together we can start to unfold the beauty and truth of who you are.