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Talking to Teens is not the easiest. First you must find the appropriate time. Don’t come to a teen with an agenda or a to do list. This is a sure way your teen will head for the hills. Conversation will flow the best when they are natural. If you want to bring up items like chores, concerns, friends they are hanging out with, too much video time, etc you must find the right moment when they will be receptive to your feedback.
Don’t expect your teen to do what you ask if you cannot do it yourself. They are and have been watching you to set the example. How can you expect them to get out of the house and engage in life if all you do is sit at home isolated yourself?
Approach in a judgment free manner. Letting your teen see that you are watching them and you notice the following:
Go online and find helpful resources that equip you to deal with the specific issues you see in your teen. Know the facts before you approach your child. Sites like Cry for Help is solely for parents needing to gain knowledge and support.
You may have mental health issues or disorders yourself. You see yourself in your teen and can recognize the symptoms. Remain positive and upbeat with your tone of voice. Try to remind them that if they are struggling with what appears to be a mental health issue is normal and very common among teens.
Really listen and stay in the present moment. Stop thinking about what your comeback remark is going to be. Silence the chatter in your own mind. This is a hard concept and one that needs to be practiced.
Offer the chance to just listen. They may already have an idea about what they want and need to address the issue. Do not be so quick to jump in and offer support and advice giving.
They may bring home information. If so then read it. Learn all you can about your child’s issue or condition. The website MHA of central Florida’s website has plenty of information to assist you.
They are opening up and do not want their life made into a soap opera.
Try and assure your teen that they are not alone. Mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, self harm, perfectionism, etc are very common today among their peers. Give the hope. If you freak out then they will too.
Suggest a few names of therapist who specializes in working wit teens. Give the the opportunity to talk with someone who is not biased.
Seek mental health counseling for your teen. Your the parent so don’t be surprised if they do not understand how to open up to you. I have several years of experience working with teens. Read my approach to conducting therapy with teens. This affects the entire family. Support for you as the parent is vital. Call today and let’s get them the help they need.