Unhealthy Relationships Orlando and what does one look like? To me an unhealthy relationship is like the example of the “domino theory.” It states that two dominoes or people leaning up against each other will fall when one moves. This is the majority of relationships we see. If one falls down then the other does too. This means that the relationship is solely based on the other person meeting your needs. Without them you have no idea who you are. What kind of a relationship is that? A codependent, needs based, unaware, insecure one. These are qualities of an unhealthy relationship, We have all of these expectations on the other person to act, feel, think, believe certain ways and do certain things. Then we get offended when the expectation is not met. We get angry and upset and become the righteous victim. Does this sound familiar? Do you find yourself caught in the victim mentality? Constantly telling your partner they don’t “get what your saying”.
A healthy relationship allows room for each to be who they are. Each feels independent to think, act and believe in what they hold valuable to them. There is mutual respect and a sense that both of you respect each other for your differences in opinion no matter how far fetched they may seem to you. It is not personal. A healthy relationship understands that partners are going to have off days but they do not make the issues all about them. They are actually able to “hold the space” and allow the room and ability to let their partner express what needs to be said and have their own process.
Relationship counseling can be extremely beneficial if you find your in an unhealthy relationship. This may involve individual sessions and/or couples therapy. This all depends on the willingness of each partner and if both are willing to put in the work to see the positive changes. I can tell you that if both of you are open to this process of taking an honest inventory of yourself, you will see that your relationship can soar. You will know yourself like never before and in so doing will know you partner that much more.
There is always time to work on your relationship. The key is that you first be willing to work and look at yourself. In order to have a successful relationship you must be willing to get right with yourself. Know yourself the best and others will know who you are.
Seek the help you need today. It may look like couples counseling in combination with individual counseling. The important thing is that you start to understand yourself better. The more one knows self the better we understand another.