Divorce Quiz

1. Arguments come up how often?

• Almost every hour constantly
• At least once daily
• Weekly basis
• Monthly
• Never

2. What topic do you and your spouse seem to argue about most? (more than one may apply)

• House Chores
• Issues around money
• Related topics and issues about the children
• Cheating and Infidelity
• Alcohol and/or Substance abuse
• Extended family

3. Would you stay married to your spouse if you could do it all over again?

• Certainly not
• Maybe if I did not meet someone who is better for me
• Absolutely
• I don’t know

4. Your thoughts on cheating are what?

• Absolutely I would never be unfaithful and cheat
• I have had thoughts at times of cheating
• I have cheated on my spouse. Multiple times even
• I currently am unfaithful and involved in an affair

5. What person do you feel you can confide in most?

• Spouse
• Friends
• Co-workers
• Family
• I don’t have anyone.

6. How involved is your partner in assisting in being a parent?

• My partner is an active participant in the lives of the children
• My partner is home, but is not present or involved often with the children
• They have little interaction with the kids
• The children are like roommates.
• Our children are the center of my partners life

7. How does your partner spend their free time?

• My partner is with the family all of their free time
• Spends at least 70% of free time with the family
• Spends less than three days a week engaged with the family
• Barely comes around to do family activities?

8. How capable are you both in regards to speaking your own opinions? Do you feel heard and validated?

• I always feel like I am able to be listened to. My partner is patient and willing to calmly listen.
• Your partner listens yet interrupts frequently to get their point across
• My partner does not care to hear my side of things and how I feel
• My partner could care less how I feel

9. How are disagreements handled between you and your spouse?

• We remain neutral if talking or in a discussion
• It ends up in a big blow-up with yelling
• Fights can become physical
• Police have been involved
• We both do not raise our voices. We are able to resolve issues calmly
• When arguments are bad we head to different ends of the house
• I find myself retreating and staying quiet. What’s the point anymore.

10. Can you trust your partner around the opposite sex?

• Absolutely not — my partner has a history of cheating on me
• I get very jealous at times
• My partner would absolutely not cheat on me
• I worry but think I can get over it

11. Does your spouse make you feel respected? Does he or she engage with the children and raising them to have good values and morals?

• Your spouse is extremely hands on with the children and is a steady example of good moral character.
• My spouse sometimes is able to listen and allow the children to open up and talk about themselves.
• My spouse is not involved in the character building of the children. I feel I do it all on my own.
• The children are hurt, angry and confused when my spouse gets involved. My partner is very inconsistent and self centered.

12. You have sex with your husband…

• As often as we can
• Every few days
• At least once weekly
• Once monthly
• I cannot remember it has been a long time

13. When you both have a problem, your partner…

• Jumps right in and tells me how to fix it. I don’t get to have an opinion.
• My partner will ask what can be done to help
• Encourages me and is there 100% of the time
• Does not say a word about anything.

14. How does your husband feel about your role as an individual and you as your own person?

• My spouse is supportive, encouraging and allows me freedom to be who I want to be.
• My spouse has double standards and acts childlike. The whole house revolves around my partner and whatever emotional state they are in. Most days it feels like walking on eggshells.
• My partner resents any outside contact I have with anyone including my family.
• I feel incapable of doing anything. I am always talked down to, feeling punished or punitive and small.

15. How often does the topic of divorce come up in your marriage?

• Hourly
• Daily
• In a few arguments only
• One time a week
• Each time we fight

16. On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the most highly motivated), how willing are you to stay in the relationship?