Divorce Quiz

1. Arguments come up how often?

• Almost every hour constantly
• At least once daily
• Weekly basis
• Monthly
• Never

2. What topic do you and your spouse seem to argue about most? (more than one may apply)

• House Chores
• Issues around money
• Related topics and issues about the children
• Cheating and Infidelity
• Alcohol and/or Substance abuse
• Extended family

3. Would you stay married to your spouse if you could do it all over again?

• Certainly not
• Maybe if I did not meet someone who is better for me
• Absolutely
• I don’t know

4. Your thoughts on cheating are what?

• Absolutely I would never be unfaithful and cheat
• I have had thoughts at times of cheating
• I have cheated on my spouse. Multiple times even
• I currently am unfaithful and involved in an affair

5. What person do you feel you can confide in most?

• Spouse
• Friends
• Co-workers
• Family
• I don’t have anyone.

6. How involved is your partner in assisting in being a parent?

• My partner is an active participant in the lives of the children
• My partner is home, but is not present or involved often with the children
• They have little interaction with the kids
• The children are like roommates.
• Our children are the center of my partners life

7. How does your partner spend their free time?

• My partner is with the family all of their free time
• Spends at least 70% of free time with the family
• Spends less than three days a week engaged with the family
• Barely comes around to do family activities?

8. How capable are you both in regards to speaking your own opinions? Do you feel heard and validated?

• I always feel like I am able to be listened to. My partner is patient and willing to calmly listen.
• Your partner listens yet interrupts frequently to get their point across
• My partner does not care to hear my side of things and how I feel
• My partner could care less how I feel

9. How are disagreements handled between you and your spouse?

• We remain neutral if talking or in a discussion
• It ends up in a big blow-up with yelling
• Fights can become physical
• Police have been involved
• We both do not raise our voices. We are able to resolve issues calmly
• When arguments are bad we head to different ends of the house
• I find myself retreating and staying quiet. What’s the point anymore.

10. Can you trust your partner around the opposite sex?

• Absolutely not — my partner has a history of cheating on me
• I get very jealous at times
• My partner would absolutely not cheat on me
• I worry but think I can get over it

11. Does your spouse make you feel respected? Does he or she engage with the children and raising them to have good values and morals?

• Your spouse is extremely hands on with the children and is a steady example of good moral character.
• My spouse sometimes is able to listen and allow the children to open up and talk about themselves.
• My spouse is not involved in the character building of the children. I feel I do it all on my own.
• The children are hurt, angry and confused when my spouse gets involved. My partner is very inconsistent and self centered.

12. You have sex with your husband…

• As often as we can
• Every few days
• At least once weekly
• Once monthly
• I cannot remember it has been a long time

13. When you both have a problem, your partner…

• Jumps right in and tells me how to fix it. I don’t get to have an opinion.
• My partner will ask what can be done to help
• Encourages me and is there 100% of the time
• Does not say a word about anything.

14. How does your husband feel about your role as an individual and you as your own person?

• My spouse is supportive, encouraging and allows me freedom to be who I want to be.
• My spouse has double standards and acts childlike. The whole house revolves around my partner and whatever emotional state they are in. Most days it feels like walking on eggshells.
• My partner resents any outside contact I have with anyone including my family.
• I feel incapable of doing anything. I am always talked down to, feeling punished or punitive and small.

15. How often does the topic of divorce come up in your marriage?

• Hourly
• Daily
• In a few arguments only
• One time a week
• Each time we fight

16. On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the most highly motivated), how willing are you to stay in the relationship?

Hopefully with this divorce quiz you are able to be honest with yourself about the state of affairs your marriage is in. If you find the marriage is not salvageable seeking individual therapy can help you navigate the next steps. You are free to make up your own mind and live in peace and harmony.